Why Online Dating is NOT For You.

first_img Sharing is caring! Share Share By GalTime Dating Expert Bobbi PalmerLast week I hosted a workshop called Get Online, Get Noticed, Get Dates, Exclusively for Women over 40. I had a fantastic time with these smart and lovely women who really want to meet their mate. It was a total blast, and they all left excited and feeling like they had the confidence and tools to get online and go for it.I met my husband on Match.com, so of course I’m an advocate. I think it’s a great way for women over 40 to meet men. That said, I know online dating isn’t for everyone. In fact, I’m well aware that some women are very apprehensive about going online. I’ve heard it all: there are nothing but jerks out there, they all want women younger than me; I never meet men my age who are remotely attractive or interesting;  chemistry has to happen in person so why waste time emailing and the other nonsense? Or, the ultimate “I’ve been online before and it sucked.”I get that; I really do. Dating in itself can cause all kinds of anxiety. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and be open to rejection. It can often feel like you’re on display, acting desperate or being judged.  So the idea of trying to do that successfully while online for (what seems like) the whole world to see definitely compounds the worry.And you know what? That’s okay. If online dating is a turnoff to you, I completely understand your frustration. I was online on and off for about 10 years before meeting my husband, and most of the time my experience was like yours: it sucked. UNTIL I figured out how to do it in a different way, started enjoying it and then met My Man. (Remember: it only takes One!)Before you make that final decision about online dating I want to get these points across:1. If you have DECIDED online dating isn’t for you, then it’s not going to be.2. If you have DECIDED that older guys aren’t for you, then none will be.3. If you want a long term GROWNUP partner, there is a heck of a lot more to it than chemistry.What you believe ends up being true, ladies. I cannot help you change what you’re currently experiencing unless you’re open to acknowledging that what you’re doing isn’t working and that it’s time to do things in a different way. Once you do that, I can most definitely teach and guide you to where you want to ultimately be–which I assume is in a lifetime relationship with a wonderful man.Maybe online dating isn’t the way, but by discounting it as an option you’re missing out on a great way to meet men. If nothing else, online dating gives you practice and helps you meet some nice guys; WHEN you do it the right way and approach it with a positive attitude.If you’re looking for that instant chemistry thing – and I hear this from clients all the time – you’re most likely going to remain single. Here’s the truth: instant chemistry doesn’t happen often, and when it does it usually fizzles as fast as it fires up. Chemistry is about superficial attraction. That doesn’t last, and it does all kinds of nutty things to our judgment.By the way…and this is quite personal…I didn’t feel the hot chemistry thing for my husband on the first date. He was simply a nice guy who asked me out. In fact, I was pretty sure it would go absolutely nowhere with him. But had I not said “yes” to his dinner date, I would not be here today. Even thinking of that makes me feel sad.If you ever consider attending my workshops, or those of other coaches, and if you can honestly come with an open mind; do it! It can very well end up being the best investment you’ll ever make. With an open mind, you would be amazed at what you can accomplish. But if you’re still convinced it can’t work for you and the men you will meet won’t measure up…then it’s not for you.You know I wish you nothing but love and success. Tweetcenter_img Share LifestyleRelationships Why Online Dating is NOT For You. by: – June 28, 2011 28 Views   no discussionslast_img read more

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Senate probe sought on ‘babies-for-sale’ trade

first_imgIn the Philippines, in particular, wheresocial media platforms are easily and widely accessed by ordinary citizens,reports revealed that babies are sold through online channels such as Instagramand Facebook. “Despite the efforts of both thegovernment and non-governmental organizations to address the illegalbaby-for-sale trade, significant solutions remain to be elusive,” De Lima said. The opposition senator has filed SenateResolution No. 224 urging the appropriate Senate committee to investigate theunderground “babies-for-sale” trade as it endangers babies’ safety and makesthem susceptible to exploitation and abuse. According to the senator, while theNational Bureau of Investigation is aware of the problems on babies-for-saletrade, the agency admitted that it “is hardly making a dent” on thematter. Based on news reports, a considerablenumber of new-born babies are being sold both online and offline, for as littleas P300 only across Southeast Asia. MANILA – Detained Sen. Leila de Lima isseeking a Senate investigation into the alleged rampant buying and selling ofnewborn babies in underground black markets in the country.center_img Offline transactions reportedly occuroutside public hospitals and in slum communities where, according to women inslum neighborhoods, six out of 10 women have either sold or know someone whohas sold a baby. “Assessments from experts point out thatone of the problem areas that exacerbate the baby-for-sale trade is theadoption system in the Philippines. The current system is described to betedious, multilayered, and highly bureaucratic, and even takes years toprocess,” De Lima said. “Poverty remains to be one of the maindrivers in the prevalence of such atrocious illegal activity, and the continuedproliferation of appalling activities relating to the exploitation, traffickingand abuse of babies,” she added. “The State must ensure that inmobilizing government agencies in the creation of a peaceful environment thatis free from crime and drugs; equal effort is exerted in protecting children; andgenerations yet to come from predators that are operating in circumvention ofand in violation of existing domestic and international laws,” she said./PNlast_img read more

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Antonio Brown’s new helmet fails test; receiver reacts with harsh tweet

first_img Steelers-Chiefs delayed due to inclement weather, new start time 8:30 p.m. ET Florio reported that Brown’s Schutt AiR Advantage helmet made in 2014 required additional testing for use by the National Operating Committee on Standards for Athletic Equipment (NOCSAE), though the league informed him the helmet did not pass the test.It’s worth noting Schutt released a statement in 2014, specifying that it stopped producing the AiR Advantage three years earlier in favor of newer models. Related News As Florio added that “we haven’t heard the last of Brown on this issue,” Brown took to social media later Saturday night and sent out an NSFW tweet to summarize his feelings on the situation.Brown ran routes and caught passes Thursday in Arizona ahead of the team’s 33-26 win over the Cardinals in their second preseason game and also was part of Oakland’s walkthrough back in California over the weekend. Raiders coach Jon Gruden expressed optimism that Brown could finally join the team for good Sunday, though the latest helmet hurdle could prove to be a problem. Andrew Luck sighting: Colts quarterback warms up ahead of Week 2 preseason game The Antonio Brown helmet saga is far from resolved.According to Mike Florio of ProFootballTalk, the NFL has reversed its ruling to allow the Raiders wide receiver to wear the specific model of Schutt helmet he loves as long as he could find one less than 10 years old. Jon Gruden thinks Antonio Brown will be practicing with Raiders soon “We discontinued making the helmet three years ago because current helmet technology had moved past it. The AiR Advantage was the last varsity helmet made by Schutt that featured traditional foam padding. That material, which is used by most other helmet manufacturers, does not perform as well as the TPU Cushioning we now use in all of our varsity helmets.”TPU (thermoplastic urethane) Cushioning absorbs significantly more impact across a wider variety of temperatures than any other helmet on the field. Third party testing by an independent, certified helmet testing facility has proven that, three years in a row. The AiR Advantage had lived out its useful life as a product and was discontinued when something better was developed.”last_img read more

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